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There is no right way, all you can do is try your best.

Well there are certainly wrong ways. And the best thing I can do is to read and learn from the mistakes of other before me.

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"If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. "

Yeah, but I think the wrong ways are pretty easy to figure out.

Also, as much as I hate to admit it, sometimes there is a certain motherly instinct women have that men seem to lack (at least in my case), so when it comes down to a debate between the two of us, I factor that into the situation. Though I've also been correct in different situations. If it wasn't for me, the girls would still have their crib in our room, and we'd still be rocking them to sleep every night instead of just saying "it's bedtime" and laying them down for the night.

If you want better advice then a book I would recommend picking a parent who has an older kid (any age for the kid is really fine since each have their own steps and such) if you personally like how that kid behaves or whatever just talk to the parent see what advice they can give you. Of course don't follow it like a blueprint but you can experiment. Or if you do not like how the kid is you an ask similar questions to see if anything sticks out to you, however definitely do not criticize them ("really you did THAT") and take what they say with a grain of salt.

Getting tips from people you know is almost always better than a "guidelines" book.

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The way I would do it, is look at the people who were total assholes when you were growing up. Figure out what their parents did and avoid that. The fact that you are willing to read boks to educate yourself on the matter means you are already a better parent then like 90% of the rest of the world.

Russ, you should buy this book

http://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-Manua ... =8-1-spell

It talks about the baby as if it's a robot, so it's right up your alley... since you want your baby to be a robot, hahaha. I have it myself (FallenKell gave it to me as a gift actually) and I liked it.

thats actually a cool approach.

hahaha, I have that book! My buddy at work gave it to me. We tried to do the hand and foot print from the mold that came with it and totally messed it up. We didn't get his hands and feet down in time and the whole thing just turned into a solid piece of rock instantly.

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"If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. "

Oh cool, ours didn't come with stuff to do that. Sorry it didnt work though.

Yeah, it was the whole package deal. I didn't realize they sold the book independently.

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"If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. "

hey russell, here's what you can use to make sure your offspring has as many brain cells firing as possible.

http://www.lumosity.com

I gotta make an account for this? psshh

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"If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. "

yeah it costs money after the 3 day trial. but from what i have read, it actually works. improves test scores and reaction time and all that shit.

Hot Music for your kids (available on spotify as well):

http://www.rockabyebabymusic.com/

http://www.amazon.com/Rockabye-Baby!/e/ ... mus_teaser?

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"Cook Free, or Die" -- Anthony Bourdain

I had to deal with a baby chain reaction tonight and it was awful.

So I'm home by myself tonight while Dem went grocery shopping. I put the girls up to bed, everything is cool. I was going to do my workout for the night but decided to hold off until I knew they were asleep. This was around 8.

I hear Helena hacking really bad. Then I thought I heard a throw up splat, but there was no crying. I went up there to check on her and she was laying in a big puddle of puke. My going in there wakes up her and Celeste (she was somehow still sleeping). I think she threw up because she had some snacks tonight at my Moms and they probably didn't sit well in her stomach. We don't really feed them junk food often, just some ice cream here and there, but she had two little cookies tonight. Anyway, I pull her out and put her into the crib with Celeste while I get her sheets off and change them. Now the girls are fired up and having fun.

I go to change Helena out of her throw up clothes and I get blasted with poop smell. I guess when she threw up she shit herself too from the blast. I'm changing the poop and Celeste is in her crib trying to escape. I actually have to lower them tomorrow or she'll fall out. Then she starts jumping all over the place, bonks herself and splits her lip. So now she's bleeding everywhere while I'm zipping up Helena into her new jammies. I go run into the bathroom after putting Helena back into her crib and get a paper towel. I clean out Celeste's lip and she calms down. I thought I smelled poop but there were so many poop and puke smells I didn't know what I was smelling. I decided to double check, Celeste ended up shitting herself too. So now I have to change her poop.

I finally lay them both down but they're still fired up. I tried to stay on the floor in the room with them hoping it would calm them down but it made them worse. So I left and Celeste freaked the fuck out for 10 minutes and passed out. By the time all this was over it was 9 o clock and I was drained. No exercises tonight. Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck.

Oh and then Dem pulled up from the store and I had to drag a bunch of bags into the house.

Dads.

Yeah my dad has his "Triple Threat" story from when I was a kid. Basically my mom left him alone with me (I want to say it was one of the first times that happened). I had been sick and was crying basically non stop and puking frequently. Eventually he "got blasted with poop smell" started to change me and then got hit with the blast of me puking, shitting and pissing all at once. My mom came home and found him sitting there just freaking out and having no idea what to do.

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I have no business being in this thread but dammit I love a good poop story.

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MY MOTHER IS A SAINT.

all of that sounds awful.

I just read this article in Time about introverts and children. I think my child might be an introvert.

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"If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. "

...isn't your kid like...months old? You need to stop reading about that stuff before you totally lose it.

You're born introverted or extroverted. It's not something you develop. It's not just one or the other. There are people that are in between. I just hope he doesn't end up being super introverted. It's a tough world out there for introverts when everyone prides and worships the extroverts.

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"If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. "

I was pretty shy when I was a kid, but I ended up getting Best Humor when I graduated. People change!

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MY MOTHER IS A SAINT.

You can certainly over come it and behave in extroverted ways. But introverts will always feel uncomfortable to some degree behaving like an extrovert. But being introverted isn't necessarily a bad thing as that was the article's main point.

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"If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. "

What makes you think your son is already like that?

Also, I'm a rather introverted person, and look at me! Hahaha.

If your child starts getting upset when exposed to a lot of simulation, it is an indication. And Matthew hates going to restaurants. Every time we've been out to eat, he starts crying. He also gets scared of new faces and places easily. I don't know. I guess I'll know more for sure as he gets older.

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"If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. "